Helping kids cope with dating after divorce
Hadfield figures that no matter how difficult it can seem, it is likely better for kids to still have contact with their parents’ romantic partners even after the romance ends.
Of course, this all depends on the strength of the relationship, the age of the child, and dozens of other factors.
After all, they didn’t choose to break up and can become very upset when they lose contact with another caregiver, especially if they had begun to like having that person around.
It’s even worse if the child’s parent says disparaging things about her or his ex-lover.
Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern of serial romantic relationships among friends who are dating online.
They meet, and a few months later, introduce their new partner to their kids.
While most parents tend to cut off ties with their former lovers, it’s seldom that simple for the kids.While there are no firm statistics on the number of lifetime partners of parents, we know that almost a third of live births are to single women and that their children are more likely than other kids to have a half-sibling by age 10.Fifty percent of these kids are also likely to experience three or more changes in who’s parenting them before the age of 5, and a third will experience another change between the ages of 6 and 12.Kids, Hadfield says, may actually mistrust the new partner more if they feel like he or she was the reason their parent lied.As if that’s not complicated enough, parents are damned if they do and damned if they don’t.